What to do when the parents are too involved (or if you're one of those parents)

The Bride and Groom always greatly appreciate the help offered to them by family, but sometimes too much help is un-welcomed help.

Families need to keep in mind that this wedding is not a production that they must keep control of every second, but instead it's the very important union of two individuals whom they love. Inevitably, families get carried away with the importance of the actual wedding day because there are a lot of emotions involved, and of course a lot of money involved.

What needs to be in the forefront of everyone's mind that is taking part in the planning process is that the wedding is for these two unique and loved people and there needs and wants should be held as sacred. This day is nerve wrecking enough as it is, not to mention having to add on the grief and concerns of all members involved.

In the end everyone needs to ask themselves:

1. Is what we are arguing about really that important? If it is, then it deserves to have more attention brought to it, but with the basis of "is this really important for both the bride and groom?". If it's not, just let it go- let differences be differences and accept them.

2. What do I want for this wedding and this couple, and not for myself? Sometimes people feel so emotionally attached to the idea of what they envision their loved one's special day to look like, that they don't envision what they would ideally envision, truly, for the bride and groom based on those things that the couple like, dislike, and really love.